Modesty, the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one’s ability. Synonym for modesty is humility. Modesty in its original language of Greek is kosmios, which means well ordered, properly organized. Modesty is a huge misconception placed more on women than men, especially in the church. It is also a huge misconception in today’s culture. Many believe modesty is only external, however, modesty is more internal.
What Modesty Isn’t
Modesty isn’t just about wearing the lengthiest skirt, dress or covering every inch of your body. It’s not just covering up to keep men or other women from lusting after you either. It’s looking within and changing your behavior and attitude, leading to a brighter and positive sheen on the outside. 1 Timothy 2:9 says “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, …”. This verse shows that yes women should dress respectable but, they should exemplify humility (modesty) and self-control, which are obtained from within. Modesty isn’t just about women either. How can men be modest, you may ask? Well, since modesty isn’t exemplified through your clothing alone, men can be immodest through their speech, behavior or how they act sexually like women.
Modesty is Christ-like
For one modesty is a biblical term so from that we know it is something as believers we should strive to obtain to be more Christ-like. If we love God our desires should be to please Him internally first by having positive behavior, speech that isn’t dishonoring to ourselves or others. Jesus honored the Father in EVERYTHING he did while here on earth. Therefore, if we are called to be like Christ, we should do the same (1 Corinthians 10:31).
Value of True Modesty
Our level of modesty should reflect who God is. When choosing to dress we should have in mind that we’re a representation of who God is through our actions and appearances. The way one person chooses to represent Christ, specifically in their appearances is different for another individual. For me, I didn’t always dress in a well-ordered manner that would show I’m representing God. It was more about getting attention from the opposite sex. If it wasn’t extremely fitted, short or both, I didn’t want to wear it. The first affirmation I remember getting from a male was about my body so, I held onto that and did everything to make sure I pleased their eyes. As I grow more into wanting to know the Father and exemplify Him, my style changed as well. I don’t cover every inch of my body, but every conviction is different for every person! I leave you with this. Don’t judge others on what they wear, allow for God to show them what to change. Also, stay true to who you’re but remember who is representing (2 Corinthians 5:20 AMP).
God loves you more than you know
I love you and remember you’re Chosen, Bianca Brown