Lonely/Loneliness- sadness because one has no friends or company; isolation.
Did you know the enemy (Satan) loves to attack our mind? Once our mind is in confusion the body follows. So, what happens when we become lonely? Being lonely is an isolation of the mind. God says, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). God knows the importance of having a godly companion and/or godly community, we’re created with a longing to not be alone. Being a Christian and lonely is a topic that isn’t discussed enough. It’s seen as we’re Christians and since we know God that equates to not suffering from those feelings (LIES) however, many of us do. Being a Christian doesn’t exempt you from human emotions, desires, etc. but it means we know God is right with us along the way.
Loneliness is something I’ve struggled with for as long as I can remember. I could be surrounded by people all day and have all the friends in the world but still felt lonely. I know God but still felt a deep sense of loneliness. The moment I was abused my mind went into isolation and it was a constant replay of my words don’t matter, so keep my mouth shut which led to a downward spiral of deep mental isolation. Your loneliness may not stem from an incident like mine, but it stems from somewhere. In the world’s eyes, loneliness can be cured by taking drugs, having friendships, romantic relationships, sex, and the list goes on. Some of these may seem innocent but these are all temporary satisfaction. So, what happens when you still feel empty? Thankfully, we have a loving God who not only fills are loneliness BUT He fills it permanently! Last week during my devotion and a deep talk with a friend, I finally got a deep revelation about this on and off loneliness I carried.
How to get through loneliness
- God is the only one who can permanently cure that deep loneliness you feel, but you must cling to Him and His word. During my times of loneliness, I held onto my broken understanding for fulfillment or other temporary satisfaction. Guess what happened when they didn’t satisfy me? I still felt lonely. However, when the deep loneliness started to arise again, I did something different. I allowed myself to acknowledge what I felt and repeatedly told myself I’m not alone! I wasn’t alone during my abuse and I’m not alone now. God wants to fill the hollow space in your heart were loneliness resides, so let Him! “I am with you now, I will protect you everywhere you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done everything that I have promised you.” (Genesis 28:15)
- God wants us to have people in this life who we can depend on when we go through low moments and high moments. He knows the importance of relationships (ones that are healthy and godly). Do you have a godly community? If not ask God for discernment and seek a community but also learn how to be a friend. If you already have godly community great but maybe you have a hard time depending on others. Personally, I’ve always felt I had to carry myself by myself because that’s what I’ve always done, but that’s not entirely true nor is it wise! Look what God says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Summary, it is foolish to have a godly community and not lean on them! God wants you to lean on the godly people He already placed or will place in your life, so don’t be afraid.
- There’s a season for everything and God calls us into seasons of isolation, so we can depend solely on Him and to protect us and prune us for the season ahead. Maybe you’re in that season now but be content and find joy in it. One of my favorite songs is Never Be Alone by Mainstream Worship and my favorite lyrics are “I can never escape from your presence, darkness and light you’re there. Nothing can hide me from your love, I’ll never be alone.” Accept the past and enjoy your current season even if it feels lonely BUT remember you’re never alone in this life!
God loves you more than you know
I love you and remember you’re Chosen, Bianca Brown